Gents...
Today I'm gonna give you a little insight how not to ruin your conversation with women, so pay attention, it's for your own good. It's some material i have read from a bunch of guys, who know what they are doing. So let's put some knowledge in your little head, mate.
- Not using enough humor
That's the main thing. Everybody needs a nice laugh. Basically, making women laugh is one of the quickest way to make her feel good. When she feels good around you, she does what? Think, my child, think. No, she doesn't want to talk about cars. She wants to be with YOU! So don't be serious all the time. You might think you can bore women to like you with topics like school, work and other boring things. Women want to you to talk about things that make them feel FUN, positive and desirable EMOTIONS. Humor is best when it is made up on the fly, while you are being real in the moment and listening to what is being said (and not said). So let your mind fly and have a easy-going attitude.
- Not listening enough
It's so damn important. You can talk, but if you don't listen, it's not going to work out. It's like having dick with no balls. The best conversationalists LISTEN to the other person and THEN expand on what they have heard by offering their own perspectives, asking questions, making jokes and branching off to related topics.
I repeat: They listen and THEN they expand on the conversation. They don’t try to prepare conversation while the other person is speaking. If this means that they pause for a second, or talk slowly at the start of their response – that is FINE to them and to the woman. The point is: They LISTEN and everyone likes to talk to someone who ACTUALLY listens to them. So don't forget your balls.
- Worrying what she will think
Rather big bunch of guys worry how they are doing in woman's eyes and when they mess up, they complain that talking to women is so hard that they rather get beat up than talking to women. So, number one thing to kill the conversation is our all great enemy: awkwardness. One of the things that causes this awkwardness is worrying about what she will think of what you say. If you come across as though you are holding back on saying things because you are afraid of what she’ll think, you can guarantee that 99% of women will NOT be attracted to you and your conversations with them will be awkward and end very quickly.
- Being too pleasant or too nice
Have you ever been talking to someone who was TRYING to appear that they were just being nice to you, but you could SENSE that they were ‘up to something’ and trying to ‘get something from you’ or trying to ‘do you over’, so to speak?
Of course, we’ve all come across those kinds of people. Here's the thing though: If you are PUTTING ON the act of being nicer and more pleasant than you usually are when you talk to a woman – she WILL sense it and it WILL turn her off. It's like manipulating: you manipulate her to like you. But the thing is: IT DOESN'T WORK! You are who you are.
- Not using enough flirting
If you don’t flirt with women, you will almost ALWAYS be seen as ‘just a friend’…or worse - nothing at all. Flirting is not a ‘should do’ for success in conversation with women, it’s a MUST do and cannot be skipped or overlooked. Tease her, make witty comments, make her feel good and create that sexual tension.
Maybe some other time i will write about things that create sexual tension, so in meantime keep those things in mind. Next thing is to go out and make the difference. Being a man is the best thing to do.
- Lad with a large harem. Cocky A
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